If ya'll don't already know... Daniel is my best friend. We do just about everything together so what the heck do we do when we have to be apart? Well, I am learning more and more each time we are apart.
So here are 10 things I have learned about long distance so far:
1. Being glued to your phone is not ideal
I'm going to be honest, I am kind of always glued to my phone anyway, but Daniel is so not. In fact, he loses his phone quite often. Whenever he gets a break from ball, he isn't always up for staring into his phone screen, which makes being able to talk regularly a bit difficult. However, he does it for me and for us. We both know that constantly texting or waiting for a call is not the best option, but we do what we gotta do.
2. How to be myself without my other half
I am still doing just about everything that I did before, just without Daniel. Not having Daniel here means... watching shows on Netflix that he refuses to watch with me, trading in baseball games for my cousin's lacrosse games, way more time to workout (still trying to get into this one), and way more shifts to pick up at work.
3. Skype dates are an actual thing
The fact that Daniel refuses to trade in his Android for an iPhone so we can FaceTime is really inconvenient. But luckily, there is Skype. We have actual Skype dates, like where we plan to set aside a time on a certain day/night just to Skype. It's probably the only reason that I still know what he looks like. Downfall of Skype dates... Daniel likes to screenshot any silly face I make throughout the call.
4. Plane tickets cost A LOT of money
Okay, seriously, why does it have to be so expensive to fly?! I know flying isn't my only option, but who the heck wants to drive 22 hours by themselves and probably still pay just as much as you would for a plane ticket? I personally love to fly Southwest because I like to get my flight points, and I am serious about my points too. I feel like flying to build up my points is like a game. I even have the Southwest credit card in order to get more points. Because I know that at some point, there is gonna come a time where I have to book a last minute flight to see Daniel, and I won't have the money saved up for it, but oh look, I got my handy dandy points!
5. How to operate on different schedules in different time zones
Honestly, we are still working to figure this one out. Since Daniel is in Arizona now, he is two hours behind me. He wakes up at the butt crack of dawn for practice though, and I like to sleep in since I work mostly night shifts. Don't get me wrong, I love getting a good morning call, but when it comes at 8am after a long night at work, it's a little brutal. I never take it for granted though because I know it's probably the only call I'll get for most of the day.
6. A picture is worth 1000 words... and feelings
Daniel and I are so opposite in the fact that I take pictures of everything and he does't even think twice about it. I wish I could be with him for every part of his journey and sometimes I do things and find myself thinking "man, I wish Daniel were here to see this". So thank you Lord for camera phones! Even though Daniel is not a picture person, I remind him to take pictures of all the exciting stuff to share with me and it honestly helps to make me feel a part of whatever it is he is doing, and vice versa.
7. Trust is make or break
Luckily, Daniel and I have a strong relationship built on trust. We began dating knowing that we would be spending a lot of time apart, and so we knew this was probably one of, if not the most important, factor of our relationship. I seriously thank God everyday to have found someone so loyal and trustworthy, especially in this kind of life we are living now.
8. Crying is okay and normal
I'm gonna be honest, this was a big thing for me because I am a total cry baby. It's hard and scary to go from living in an apartment with someone every single day to living in different time zones. So sometimes I get sad and cry, okay?! At first, I hated crying about being apart in front of Daniel because I didn't want to give him the impression that long distance was too hard for me. Eventually he learned that I pretty much cry over everything, but we also learned together that it's okay for me to cry about missing him. In fact, I always tell Daniel that I'm "sappy"... I'm crying because I am sad that he's gone, but happy at the same time because I know he is chasing his dream and doing what he loves (cheesy, I know).
9. Goodbyes are hard
Plain and simple, dropping him off at the airport or being dropped off at the airport to leave each other will never get easier. It will always suck. The end.
10. Hellos are the best
Plain and simple, picking him up from the airport or being picked up from the airport is the greatest feeling after being separated for any amount of time. Like no joke, I've literally hit sprints running down the terminal trying to keep my excitement in check. I don't think that kind of feeling will ever get old, and in the end, it makes the distance so so worth it.
I am not claiming to have this whole long distance thing figured out.There are still things that I/we are learning day by day. Needless to say, what works for us doesn’t necessarily work for everyone... every relationship and experience in this journey is different in it’s own way. So comment below with your long distance relationship lessons and advice!
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